10 Tips for Blogging Without Pointing Fingers

After many years of being a Believer I have seen my fair share of finger pointing in ministry and it brings division every time. It separates friends, crushes spirits, and leaves a very bad taste in the mouth of people who now refuse to trust Christians. I have been in both the shoes of the finger pointing and been the victim of it as well. Many of us know we can purchase books and view websites that directly point out cults and false prophets. I have read many of those books and websites myself.

There are times when I found such resources to be helpful, but sometimes they can be a bit overwhelming. What I found was that some of their resources were not entirely accurate. So what's a person to do when they aren't sure whether or not they can trust the one who is pointing fingers? The answer is simple, turn to the Living Word.

I have written a few times about false prophets, but in my articles there is no mention of any one person or group in particular. If you study the Word to see what Jesus and the Apostles said about false prophets you'll be able to identify them yourself.

In many schools a student is required to study facts, by memorization. Just because the student can memorize a set of facts does not make them intelligent, it makes them good at memorizing. But a student that takes the time to learn how to research and find their own facts has learned how to think critically and formulate their own results. As we study what Jesus and the Apostles said about false prophets and false gospels, we become more intimately involved with Christ and we rely upon the Holy Spirit rather than another fallible man. I don't mean that all authors are bad, but they aren't perfect, none of us are. So we are all fallible. But the Holy Spirit will not lie to us. We must learn to rely upon Him directly for all our questions and answers.

I believe it's good to research matters with other believers and keep each other accountable for the direction we're headed. A fellow brethren may disagree with you on a matter, but we owe it to each other to continue searching out a matter until the result brings glory to God. I believe that over the years, Christians became lazy in their relationships with our Lord and with one another. Instead of taking the time to search out a matter in depth, they chose to agree to disagree and move on, going in separate directions and I believe this is part of the problem of why we have so many denominations today. Those denominations keeps the Body divided.

It's high time we get back to working on our individual relationships with the Lord and allow people to question what we believe. If we close the door on people questioning us, then we place ourselves in a position to go in the wrong direction without correction.

In the blogosphere, it is very easy to become isolated from correction when bloggers refuse to allow open discussion on their articles. They reject comments made by readers who have sincere questions about their faith. They only allow comments to pass through from those who support their view point.

Yet there are times to be cautious of trolls who only seek to disrupt the online community. This is when we need to use discernment on whether or not to allow a comment to pass through. Even an angry commentor can be moderated through if you can be a polite hostess and validate their concerns, while giving further feedback yourself. Now if the person seems to really just be 'out to get you' you may want to allow some comments to pass through so other readers can both be aware of the person and at the same time, maybe they would have some input to help the situation.

Here are some tips I have learned by experience that may be of help to you.

1. Always be polite when commenting. This goes for your own blog as well as others.

2. If you find a blog article the gets your steam going, take a day or two before responding. We don't always have to reply. We need to be careful of how fast we type while our emotional gears are going full speed ahead.

3. If the author is discussing theology, use caution when replying. You may want to begin with asking simple questions first. If they have the response of 'they have it 100% correct and you can't change their mind', then it may be best to walk away from the discussion, pray for them, then try again another time.

4. Avoid using social networks as a means to swing the discussions full circle, entrapping all your readers in a blogging war.

5. Don't gossip. Gossip isn't always voice to voice, it can also be via Email, Twitter, Facebook etc.

6. Don't send your cyber friends to spy out another person's blog. If you want to know what they're writing about, go look for yourself.

7. If every time you encounter an author and it angers you, then take a break. Re-examine your own heart about why you feel the way you do. Perhaps it is you who needs to take some time to pray and seek the Lord on your own heart condition.
Matthew 7:5,"Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye."
8. Remember it is not your job to look out for the entire world in what they believe. God guided you to His Son and He can do the same for anyone else. When Jesus spoke to Saul on the road to Damascus, he wasn't speaking English. Saul didn't even speak English, but God knew how to speak to Saul and make him listen.

9. If a group disagrees with an individual, it's understandable to be in agreement with the group, but never never bash the individual you disagree with. She is God's daughter and your sister.

10. Pray, pray, pray. God sees everything we write about. Place the situation in His hands and walk away from it.

As I said earlier, I learned these tips from experience. From being in the shoes of the finger pointer and in the victims shoes as well. I'm not a perfect person, blogger, or Christian. I have faults and keep making mistakes, but let's learn from those mistakes. We can step up on those stumbling blocks and allow them to become our stepping stones instead.

Sisterlisa is a homeschooling mom of four children and married to a ministry leader of a Rescue mission. She is the owner of Growing in Grace Magazine and AGMinistries.

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{ Pure Perseverance } at: September 13, 2009 at 12:35 PM said...

Thank you, Lisa. I am in agreement with you and can, too, relate. This is received well to my heart.

{ ~Renee'~ } at: September 13, 2009 at 1:08 PM said...

Thank You sooooooooooo Much, I agree with you .

{ Lady Jess } at: September 13, 2009 at 1:26 PM said...

Great article! I agree.

{ Amanda Read } at: September 13, 2009 at 4:55 PM said...

Excellent article! I've noticed that blogging has been blown way out of proportion and decency as a communication medium. Because the internet allows people to sling words across the world faster than any of our ancestors could have imagined, it is much easier for human nature to go off on a dangerous tangent (which is later regretted if one has any degree of humility).

We must all remember that in the mysterious digital world, what we write is there forever as long as the internet exists - even if writings, photos, etc. are later deleted, there are still ways for others to some how retrieve those archives. At least, that is what I've been told by some computer experts.

Thank you for your campaign (does that word fit?) against Cyber-Bullying and hateful blogging. We definitely need to keep up a blogosphere Reformation!


{ devildogwife } at: September 13, 2009 at 5:04 PM said...

Very well written. I am still trying to learn when it's best to just walk away and when I should say something. I need to pray more often before I start typing or talking...

{ Sisterlisa } at: September 13, 2009 at 6:08 PM said...

Thank you for the support ladies.

Amanda, I like that term Blogosphere Reformation.

{ Teri Lynne } at: September 13, 2009 at 6:57 PM said...

Wonderful reminder ... So often we forget that every thing we do and say is either a good or bad reflection of Christ. I especially appreciate the reminder to wait and pray before posting about or on a topic that can be divisive.

{ Reborn } at: September 14, 2009 at 12:45 AM said...

Very wise tips, Sisterlisa!

I've come across a lot of blogs that, while I agree with much of what the author has to say, use a very abrasive judgmental/accusatory tone.

Because of this I try to remember to watch my "tone" when writing. This is very challenging because written words obviously do not have the benefit of tonal inflection and facial expressions to help the listener grasp your attitude and motivation.

In my opinion, it helps soften my tone a whole lot when I write to myself rather than ranting about what I think "people" (or the classic and vague, "they") should do/think/believe.

(i.e. "I need to remember to use a softer tone when writing" vs. "People really should to remember to use a softer tone when writing.")



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