Passionate Love has an Enemy

by Sisterlisa

When a person is in love, they write their name a million times over, carve initials in trees, and calls everyone they know to tell of the great love they have found. It almost sounds too good to be true, but to her..he is her everything. He is perfect and her passionate love for him doesn't see anything wrong with him. She sees only the good.

Her true friends will choose to see him as she sees him, accept him into their lives as her second half just as she sees him. Their future as husband and wife will be abundant with true friends who will always be by their side in good times and bad helping to build their relationship and be in fellowship together as they all grow stronger in their relationships with one another.

They become like a family, although no blood exists, the bond of love between all these friends is the blood that binds them to one another.

But there are those who envy these relationships and seeks to disrupt the bond of love by looking for flaws in each of them. This envy points the finger and wags the tongue to destroy the vision the bride has for her groom. Envy seeks to make the groom look hideous by finding every flaw imaginable to thwart their love. Envy will want all friends to see this groom for what envy sees him as..a threat to their own desire for a relationship with the bride.

All the groom can do is continue to show his devotion for his bride, to love her and her friends just as they are. The accuser then begins to point his finger at the friends and all their faults too. Not only has the accuser told his ugly view of the groom and the friends to the bride, but he now throws his hateful words at the bride, shaming her for her choice to love her groom. The accuser points and accuses all of them of being ugly and hateful, causing a total disruption of the entire circle of love between all the friends, the bride and her groom. Those who take their eyes off the love will fall into the trap of the accuser and begin to see through his vision and begin to follow his ways in pointing out ugliness in the groom. When the bride holds true to her deep love the friends will turn on the bride as well. They begin to point and accuse the bride of ugliness as well.

Has the bride chosen the wrong groom? Everyone around her is trying to convince her of the accusations put forth by the accuser. That her true love is really hateful vengeful man who is out to hurt them all. Is this really the groom she fell in love with? She runs home to her father for wisdom. She buries her head into her father's chest with tears streaming down her face. She explains that all her friends say her groom is not who he says he is. She is confused and heartbroken. Her relationship with her groom is being torn apart and now her friends won't speak to her anymore. She asks her father if she should trust her groom or her friends. Her loving father reminds her that it is her choice to make and she must choose love. For it is love in her heart that will carry her through this life and through all her relationships. Her father tells her that when she makes her choice she must remain true to her heart and to her choice. If she chooses her groom she must always look for the good in him, for if she falls victim to the accuser it will destroy their relationship.

She asks her father if it is possible that the accusations are true. He gently reminds her of the love her groom has showered her with. He reminds her of all his kindnesses to her, her family, and her friends. Her father reminds his daughter that even though there are some who are accusing her groom, he has shown kindness to them. Her groom has been loving to her, patient in this tribulation, and forgiving of this trial. That even though their friends have forsaken them both, the groom has shown genuine love.

The bride knows that she must consider the actions of all her friends and her groom. Her groom has not accused her friends of anything. He has fully accepted them as they are and has not spoken evil of them at all. He remains true to her with open arms waiting for her to come back to his arms. Yet her friends continue to accuse and speak hurtful words to her about her groom.

After much prayer she approaches her friends with the wisdom of her father. She attempts to reconcile her friendships, but they refuse unless she breaks off the relationship with her groom. They make it clear that they do not accept the wisdom of her father and they insist they know the groom better than she does. She tells them that she and her groom will both forgive them and would like to reunite their fellowship again in peace and love, but they continue to refuse. They insist that they have judged him rightly and are adamant that the perception the accuser gave them is true.

Alone, the bride walks through the garden considering all that has taken place. Heavy laden with fears, sadness, and confusion. She looks deep within herself and asks her heart... what shall I do? She thinks of her friends and her heart sinks in despair. She knows that if she chooses to listen to her friends she will need to side with them all the way and face the rest of her life with their reminders of accusations against her first love. She thinks of her groom and hear heart begins to flutter again. She knows that her future is unknown and must be taken by faith. She thinks of her father and the wisdom he shared and she is comforted. She knows her father will always love her and be there for her no matter what. She knows the only answer... it is love. Love covers a multitude of sins.

There she stops in the garden, alone, and cries tears of pain as she knows her decision will bring broken fellowship with her friends. In the stillness of the moment she hears a voice calling out to her. It is her love, he has been searching for her and she hears him. His voice comes closer and closer when she finally calls out his name. There he is! His arms open wide..she runs to him calling out his name in love. He embraces her and she embraces him right back. They hold each other close and she never wants to depart from him again. The bride thanks him for his patience while she took time to consider all that was taking place in her relationships. He lovingly reminds her of his unfailing love and offers forgiveness for her and her friends. He lets her know that at any time her friends want to come back into fellowship they will be welcomed by him.

They decide to try one more time to reconcile with her friends, but they refuse. They refuse to enter back into fellowship and they refuse the forgiveness and grace of her groom. He invited them one more time to the wedding, but they remain firm in their decision. The bride and groom both remind them that at any time they change their minds, they are welcome to come.

The couple continues their preparation for the wedding and just before the father of the bride walks his beautiful daughter down the aisle, her eyes seemed to tremble. He asks his daughter what is troubling her on this spectacular day and she replies with some sadness that she has no friends to celebrate the wedding day with. He wipes her tears and the music begins to play. As they begin their procession down the aisle, the door opens and much to her surprise the room is filled with guests. People she has never met. Once the bride and her father reaches the end of the aisle and she holds hands with her groom she asks where all the people came from and he replied, "My friends are your friends. Welcome to our fellowship my love."

It was a beautiful day and they all celebrated together. After much feasting with gladness and dancing with joy, the bride and groom look to the gates where the bitter old friends stood. The bride and groom opened the door and announced that all who wish to enter and drink and celebrate may do so and all who come can tell others to come. Let us all rejoice together.

Revelation 22:17




Sisterlisa is a homeschooling mom of four children and married to an evangelist who travels to bring the gospel to those in need of our Savior. She is the owner of Growing in Grace Magazine and AGMinistries.




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{ Michelle } at: June 2, 2010 at 11:40 AM said...

That was beautiful, Lisa. My family and best friend were all adamantly opposed to me marrying my husband.

It is painful, but I have never regretted my decision. They say I chose him over them but really, it was the other way around!

In rejecting him, they chose to reject me as well!

It will be 18 years for us in just a few days!

I am so glad to not have listened to their opinions of him because they were all so very wrong!

{ Faith } at: June 16, 2010 at 6:38 PM said...

This really blessed me....thank you for writing it!

{ TC } at: July 10, 2010 at 7:41 PM said...

Count me as a friend of the Groom. :) Love this!

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